The Second Thing that Doesn't Work

Averting My Eyes

Deciding not to see and not to interfere. Doing nothing: not asking about homework, not reminding her to go to bed, not checking to see if she has brushed her teeth, not caring how long she spends in front of the computer.

Deciding that her future is fate and that the only way to move on is to move on independantly with my life. Letting hers play out without my involvement.

This results in chaos and sadness for me. It sends the Isabel the messages:

1. Everyone is leaving me alone so I must be ok.
2. The world allows me to sit in front of the computer all night and not brush my teeth so,
3. My world is easy and requires little responsibility; only the aptitude for being invisible.